Good Personality
(1) explain why people with similar heredity, experience, and motivation may react differently in the same situation; and
(2) explain why people with different heredity,past experiences, and/or motivation may nevertheless react similarly in the same situation.
Here are some practical and important “dos” and “don'ts” which can help you determine if you are on the right path with how you are with others!
Hopefully, these suggestions will help you in the process of improving who and how you are. Perhaps, you will see something you had not thought of or have previously considered unimportant. Then, you can identify any flaw in your spiritual walk.
DO smile; it costs nothing and is always appreciated!
DON'T ignore people, even when you do not want to talk; be friendly when someone says "Hello!" It is not about how you feel; it is about how you are supposed to be.
DO make people feel important. Make each person feel that he/she is special and he/she is the most important person around!
DON'T brag! No one likes a person who is full of self! Be an honest and humble person! It is far better that people find out
about your achievements and abilities from sources other than you.
DO have a sense of humor! Laugh and people will laugh with you; if all you do is cry, you will cry alone!
DON'T always have problems, troubles, or need help; you will soon find yourself alone! We all have problems and need help; be discerning about knowing when to ask for help and when you are being a pest. The decision is based on whether you are seeking attention or a relationship.
DO encourage people! Tell others what you like about them, or something they are doing well. Encouragement is the fuel that moves the engine of the church.
DON'T criticize or cut people down玅including yourself! There is a difference between humbleness and a self-demeaning attitude.
DO have an interest in many things. Be an interesting person, and people will be interested in you!
DON'T grab the best, biggest, and most for yourself; give others a break! (unless you are a five-year-old!).
DO meet strangers, although it may be difficult. You could make a great, new friend by being friendly to someone you do not know! We have to be willing to take risks as well as be discerning.
DON'T make fun of others when they make a mistake or do something dumb! Be the first one to go to them with encouragement.
DO help others when they have a problem and share what you have with others! We are to be the people who give attention, not try to take it all of the time.
DON'T have a bad temper or be an angry person looking for an argument or a fight! Temperance is far better than temper!
DO look good, clean, neat, and well groomed! It was Benjamin Franklin who said, cleanliness is next to godliness. The theology is off, but the practice will be true.
DON'T blame others for their mistakes, or worse, for yours! Be a person who takes responsibility, even if it is not your fault.
DO keep a confidence. If someone tells you something, keep it to yourself; be trustworthy! You will never develop the essential quality of trust if you are a gossiper. There is only one thing that God hates more than gossip, and that is pride, so be on your guard against such actions.
DON'T be too cool! Cool people are never popular people; they are too cool!
DO listen and be an encourager! Listening is a sweet fruit that is needed by all. It says that you care, and that others are important.
DON'T over-correct or micromanage people! Remember to first take the plank out of your own eye.
DO take a joke and be a good sport! People who are teased a lot usually get that way because they have not learned how to take a joke and they over-react, spurring on the teasing.
DO remember names! It shows others that they are important. The sweetest sound to someone is his or her own name.
DON'T be loud and obnoxious!
DO thank people!
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